March 16, 2012


We took this photo in Mexico. I was 15 weeks along and we were well on our way with documenting Liam's beautiful pregnancy.

I'd always loved this photo. J had put a flash behind us because it was pitch dark out and after about 10 takes this is what we got. It was perfect. Symbolic of the life that was growing inside of me. The life we created and loved and couldn't wait to meet.

We chose Liam's name during that trip. "Liam, if he's a boy"...

I look at this photo now, and well, it's taken on a whole new level of meaning. I'm thankful that we didn't wait to start taking pregnancy photos because each one means so very much.

Who would have thought that five weeks later i'd be lying in a hospital bed fighting to save Liam's life?

Who would have thought so many things.

I miss him so much.



  1. So lovely. One of the things I regret so much is the lack of documentation of Camille's life inside me. I was so focused on my son and well. I'm just so glad you have this photo

  2. Beautiful shot and words. "Who would have thought so many things." That seems about right.

  3. Gorgeous photo, Tash.

    Sadly, I don't have very many photos from when I was pregnant with Molly. Aside from the pregnancy glow I had during the first few weeks, I felt so sick most of the time that I just didn't want to be on camera. Actually, that's applies in general, but it especially does when I'm feeling and looking like crap.

    It's too bad because I would have loved to have some pics of my belly--something that we never did. Sigh.

    It's good to hear from you. I missed you. xo

  4. I remember you posting this photo when you got back from your holiday and thinking then how lovely it was. Now it's even lovelier. Much love to you. x

  5. Beautiful photo and I am thinking about you and your journey with IVF... It is not the most fun process in the world. My best for the future.

  6. Your support is a strong shoulder to lean on, sometimes I don't know what i'd do without this place and you guys. Thank you.

  7. It's so hard to look back at photos from our 'before' lives. But I am grateful for the handful of photos I have of my pregnancy.

    This one is really a treasure - it's sort of magical I think. It's just so sad knowing what was coming. I wish I could have changed the ending for you...

  8. it truly is a beautiful photo. I wish for you to feel that happiness again in your lives, in some way or another.

  9. I love this photo - the darkness and the bright light, and the way the threads of light envelop both of you. And I love that it's not an obvious pregnancy photo, but that Liam is here and everywhere in this picture.


  10. Your photo is beautiful...hugs my friend...xoxoxo

  11. It's so nice to have those photos. I wish I had more. I kept thinking I'd just take more photos once I was bigger and really looked pregnant, and then...I just stopped growing, and never anticipated that could happen. The few photos we have from our trips, or that my husband captured when we were decorating our Christmas tree while I was pregnant really are so special to me. I'm glad you have this one to remind you of the happy moments you shared with Liam. Those good memories are the ones I try to remember most when I think of my Madeleine. I can't replace the hospital memories with these sweet ones, but I can choose to meditate on the moments of love as much as possible. I wish you a gentle day.

  12. What an incredible photo. Sometimes I don't know what to say on here, because there's no way I can really comprehend your grief, and I feel like anything I would say would somehow trivialise it. But I want you to know I'm reading. Kellie xx

  13. Thank you so much for your messages.

    Brie, As soon as I hit 3 months and we announced my pregnancy J started snapping away no matter if I showed or not. I'm so thankful he did. I'm glad that you have some photos too. Like you, I try to concentrate on the moments of love rather than our time in the hospital but it's difficult because it was our last month together. The photos I have from our last days together are of us in our hospital bed. Frightened. And hoping, hoping, hoping.

    Kellie, your words have always been gentle and caring and warm. Thank you for reading. For listening. It means more than you know. xx

  14. i feel like i remember this photo. i think it is from when i first started reading your blog and i thought it so beautiful then. and now.

  15. What a beautiful, beautiful photograph.

    Who could have imagined? Who could have thought?

    Your Liam. So missed.

  16. AnonymousJune 28, 2012

    This is beautiful. Who could have thought, indeed.

    We don't have many photos from when I was pregnant. Not on purpose, we just don't take a lot of pictures unless we're going somewhere. I wish that we had more. Although we did get married when I was six months pregnant, just four weeks before Maggie died. And I can't look at the pictures now - it just makes me so sad to look at how happy I was, and try to reconcile that with where I am now. I guess I'll get there, but I'm not there yet.